Personal Magnetism - Part 1
Some people are like magnets. The moment they enter a room, they radiate presence. They ooze confidence, warmth, fearlessness, trustworthiness and charm. They have truly magnetic personalities.
Have you ever wanted to be one of them? Have you ever felt that it is not possible? If you said yes to either question, this article series is just for you. Here, I would like to briefly share the truth about personal magnetism, what it is and how you can develop it.
Do you have it?
Personal magnetism, or influence, has been a trait associated with almost all great men. Many of them cultivated this trait. Several others, made use of the trait naturally ingrained in them, without bothering to cultivate it or improve upon it.
First of all, let me assure you that personal magnetism exists in each and every one of us. In fact, it exists even in those people who are severely disliked and distrusted. In them, the personal magnetism is really strong, it is just that the negative pole is operational there. Just like the strong positive pole of personal magnetism works for the really influential and charismatic people, the strong negative pole is working for these people. And what about the ones that fall in between? The personal magnetism still exists in them, it is just that it is not as strong. Its sphere of influence is relatively smaller. Have you ever heard people say this about someone, "he is a really great guy, once you get to know him." It means his sphere of magnetism is limited to very close acquaintances. Even the most boring guy on the planet has it, albeit in a very limited form.
Can you develop it?
Yes! You can most certainly develop it, whether you are starting with a very small amount of personal magnetism or a very large amount of negative magnetism. You can always develop it. You just need to keep working on it, patiently and persistently. The good news is, the rewards are so very great, if you can only put in the effort required.
Mental and Physical Magnetism
We are often tempted to think that personal magnetism is an entirely mental feature, and that the physical body has nothing to do with it. In truth, there are two poles to personal magnetism - physical and mental. A truly magnetic person must try and develop both poles simultaneously. When both these are in sync and well developed, you can see the birth of a truly charismatic individual - one for whom success is an assured destiny. In the words of the famous teacher of personal magnetism, Prof. Theron Q. Dumont, "it would seem that the physical magnetism were needed to give “body” to the mental magnetism, just as the mental magnetism is needed to give color, character or “soul” to the physical magnetism. The two phases of magnetism must work together to gain the best effects. " In simple words, mental magnetism can raise the thought waves that influence others, physical magnetism is the force that moves it out into others.
Mental magnetism
When we think, some areas in our brain are fired up. When I say fired up, I mean that energy is consumed by the brain tissue to produce this thought, and heat is formed. The brain becomes the equivalent of a magnet - a force field is created, which has an effect on those that come near to them.
To explain it in simpler terms, have you ever met someone for the first time, and felt a "gut instinct" that the person is up to no good, or that he is not worthy of your trust, no matter how polished his behavior was? That was mental magnetism at work - his thought waves affecting your brain and telling you he can't be trusted. On the other hand, even very sloppy talkers can often ignite in us a feeling of trust and liking - again, it is personal magnetism at work.
There are two phases to mental magnetism - (1) creating thought waves or 'vibrations' by holding a mental state and (2) projecting these vibrations to those around you.
Our mental state decides whether our vibrations are cheerful, confident, trustworthy, gloomy, treacherous or insecure. And others coming in contact with us can easily pick up on these vibes, no matter what we say or do. It is often called a "human atmosphere". Very strong mental states also creates equally strong vibrations - either positive vibes of trust, confidence and cheer, or negative vibes of mistrust, insecurity and gloom. Very strong vibrations are easily perceived by anyone coming in contact with them.
One of the biggest secrets of personal magnetism is knowing how to create and hold the positive mental states that attract others. Keep reading, and I would unveil that information.
Physical magnetism
Have you ever noticed the existance of nerve-force within you or others? It is also called "nervous energy", "life force", "prana", "vital force" and so on. It is the force within us, which is transmitted through our nervous system, but which is not made up of nerve-tissue. It is a force, an energy which exists and flows within each of us. It is carried in the nervous system, but it does not originate there. This is the force behind physical magnetism.
There are two phases to physical magnetism - (1) generating nerve-force and (2) projecting nerve-force to those around you.
Like electricity, this nerve-force is present in the atmosphere all around us. Our bodies absorb and use it whenever we need it. And how exactly is it absorbed? By the process of breathing. We inhale not only oxygen and other gases, but also the nerve-force present in the universe.
How is this force transmitted, or projected to others? It is by a process called "induction". Magnets attract other magnets over the medium of air, without actual contact between them. Actual contact of conducting materials is often not required for transmitting magnetism and even electricity (read up on induction to understand this better), and same is the case of nerve-force. Haven't you seen people who are so full of vital force or energy or nerve-force that they charge you up and energize you when you meet them? Haven't you also seen people who are so low on this nerve-force, that they "feed on" your nerve-force, leaving you feeling weak and gloomy? Even though nerve-force is available in plenty in the universe, only a few are good at absorbing and retaining it, and it is usually do to their habits and life style. As we go on, we will talk about how to increase our nerve-force, and project it to others.
Move on to read Personal Magnetism - Part Two.
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