The Personality Development Workbook

Some people attract people to themselves like magnets. Yet others repel people just as strongly. Several of those who repel others cannot figure out why they don't have more friends or why they find it difficult to get close to others. It can be really frustrating.

There are several reasons why people may not be attracted to you. I have identified five personality traits that can really hamper you in your attempts to get close to others. Though there are several other potential causes, these five seem to be on the top.

If we are honest with ourselves, we can look at this list and see if any of these describes us. If it does, then we can always find ways to change. Every small step in the positive direction will bring impressive results.

Let us now explore these five pitfalls in human behavior.

Poor personal hygiene

Before we even get to know someone, we can be repelled by them if they have poor personal hygiene. Body odor, bad breath, unclean outfits, general untidiness are all very repulsive. A clean, tidy and well-groomed appearance can instantly uplift you in the minds of others.

Poor conversational skills

Everybody can develop and polish their conversational skills. But not everyone cares to do so. When somebody has poor listening skills, we won't feel like sharing much time with them. If all their stories are dull or boastful, we want to get rid of them as soon as possible. Developing listening skills and using proper conversational etiquette can go a long way in amending this problem.

Negativity

Negativity can instantly repel people. Some people are always complaining about their situation, job, family, the weather or others. This sort of talk can get boring very quickly. When someone has a negative attitude regarding everything, it is really difficult to get along with them. It is possible to consciously develop a positive attitude and thus solve this issue.

Dishonesty

Even the smoothest talkers and most well-mannered people will repel others if they are dishonest. Nobody likes to be with someone they don't trust. If our behavior is not open and above-board, others will surely see through us at some point, and we will instantly lose their good will. Honesty needs to be cultivated. After all, as the saying goes, it is a better compliment to be trusted than to be loved.

Repulsive temperament

Our temperament is easily detected by others, and their behavior to us often depends on this. If we are always flying off the handle with the least provocation, naturally people will avoid us. If we are moody and gloomy all the time, we won't find many friends around us. A positive, calm and friendly temperament can create wonders for our social life.

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